When we say "leader" or "leadership," we often equate it with someone who has a swashbuckling personality. These are people who stand out among many because they dare to assume leadership roles when others do not. They admonish their subordinates not only on the basis of their position but also on the strength of their character and personality.
How about gentleness? Does it have a place in a leader’s exercise of leadership, especially in the area of discipline? It certainly does, but this is something many leaders tend to overlook or intentionally forget. They often favor the strong, assertive side of leadership rather than its gentle and humble dimension.
Traditional leadership styles emphasize boldness, authority, and power. But gentleness offers a unique and valuable approach to leading and managing others. Gentleness humanizes leadership and adds a dimension that leaders can draw upon when they feel there is a need for it.
One specific area where gentleness can be fully utilized in leadership is in the imposition of discipline. Some leaders impose discipline based on the strength of their position, authority, power, or even overbearing egos. They may do this by personally berating the erring individual(s)—a practice that has sadly become the norm for many.
Gentleness is often mistaken for weakness by those who have a limited understanding of leadership. But this is far from true. Gentleness can also be bold, determined, courageous, and direct. However, gentleness in leadership is never harsh, arrogant, or oppressive. In truth, gentleness is a powerful technique for leaders and managers that can be harnessed whenever needed.
It has been proven time and again that people are more open to change when spoken to with gentleness—rather than from a place of raw authority or inflated ego. For example, when we approach an erring person with gentleness, he is more likely to listen and be open to change. There is less resistance compared to when we confront him with rigid authority and pride.
While gentleness in leadership can be effective, it is not always suitable for every situation. There are times when a more assertive or authoritative approach is required—such as during crises or when decisive action must be taken. The effectiveness of any leadership style depends on the leader's ability to balance gentleness with other approaches based on the needs of the situation and the organization.
Gentleness as a leadership technique can help create a positive and productive work environment, improve communication, and foster teamwork. It's one of the many leadership approaches available, and its effectiveness hinges on how and when it is used.
For a change, why not try employing gentleness more often in your exercise of leadership—and see the good results it can bring you? — Marino J. Dasmarinas
