Some, if not many, of us impose discipline the old-fashioned way. This means punishing the transgressor right in front of a crowd to shame the person. But when we do this, we only plant seeds of anger and resentment in the person being disciplined. He or she may not immediately vent this anger and resentment, but sooner or later, it will come out.
There are leaders and managers who are heavy-handed when imposing discipline because they think it is the appropriate way. However, heavy-handedness in imposing discipline is counterproductive, as it results in the development of deep-seated resentment.
So, what should a leader or manager do when he or she needs to impose discipline? The leader or manager should immediately call for a private meeting with the transgressor so that appropriate punishment can be imposed in private. By doing this, the leader or manager avoids the unnecessary and arrogant projection of power and authority.
What is the importance of having a private meeting with someone who has breached the discipline of the organization or has committed a fault? You signify your sincerity to correct the person, and you send a message that you want to immediately contain and resolve the problem without grandstanding, ego-tripping, or insulting anyone.
By doing so, you create a sincere message that you want to heal the wayward behavior without shaming the person in front of a crowd. If you do this, you will even gain the respect of the person you are disciplining.
Many of us commit the mistake of correcting a person in front of a crowd, but this will not help heal wayward behavior. It will only create deeper emotional resentment in the person at fault. Hence, instead of bringing him or her closer to correction, healing, and reconciliation, we end up creating an emotional bubble within the person being disciplined, which could explode at any time.
Let us not allow ourselves to be consumed by our power and authority when we impose discipline or exercise leadership, as this will do us no good. When we unnecessarily and arrogantly discharge our power and authority, we only expose how flawed and limited our leadership skills are. Let us instead hold on to civility, respect, and reason, for this is the only way to correct and completely heal wayward behavior.
What is the use of showcasing our power and authority in public if it only creates deeper emotional injury? What is the use of correcting a person in full view of the crowd if it only creates a monster called hatred and resentment? – Marino J. Dasmarinas